Ep 154: Fracture (F-word Monologue)
Divorce... Now it's my turn to talk about mine.
While I don't hold back in sharing that I've been divorced, I don't think I've ever opened up completely about the details of it. Inspired by my previous interview, it's time to answer the questions you have around my divorce.
Speaking about divorce is something we get to normalize and also normalize different perspectives about it.
My former husband and I had an amicable divorce and there is a reason for that. Tune in as I share how I choose freedom above all and how I was able to cope emotionally...so that I can be the woman who I am today.
What You'll Learn in this Episode
Learn what options are there prior to divorce
What i did to make it work
How the aftermath post-divorce was
Nuggets of Wisdom from Shazia
The way that I always describe my divorce is that it is the most amicable divorce that anybody could ever have. And I really credit that to both me and my former husband for being really good people who put the greater picture in front of us and not kind of the petty things.
We go in with a false notion that somehow this is going to be permanent. And I say false notion because nothing is permanent, nothing at all, even our lives. The one certainty that we have in life is that we will die. That might sound morbid, but it's true. You me and everybody in this world will one day die. So our lives are not permanent, and neither are relationships.
I remember one of my therapists had said that if you are not like intimate at least several times a month, like you need to definitely be kind of raising an eyebrow and paying attention.
I do believe that we get to try everything possible when it is not an abusive situation, because it's worth trying.
And even then, I chose freedom. I chose freedom. And I want every woman to choose freedom when she has to go through a divorce because it isn't easy. But it's much better to be free in who you are and how you feel than to be shackled to resentment to be shackled to bitterness and pettiness or shackled to the idea of that your life is over.